Your marriage, you, your partner , and your children all exist within a unique marriage and family, “Bubble.”

There are behaviors that DO belong to your marriage’s Bbubble: i.e., listening, sharing, expressing emotions, intimacy, safety, support, kindness, love, mutual honor, and respect.

There are behaviors that DO NOT belong in your marriage’s bubble: i.e., withdrawing, irresponsible expression of hard emotions like anger, resentment, resignation, declining to communicate, criticism,domination, infidelity, abuse, and violence.

At any moment, we can ask,
“Does what I am about to do or say belong in our marriage, Bubble?”

If not, stop.
When yes, go ahead.